I don’t think that I ever truly realized that. It took a life event to really make me think about it. It was more than that, though. It was friends telling me that without even saying it. It was family there supporting me when I didn’t think that I really needed it.
Happiness is a choice. It’s not something that just happens. It’s not something that pops up out of the blue causing you to suddenly exclaim “I’m happy!” You have to actually make that choice and then walk that path. There is no rainbow and pot of gold at the end. It’s all around you while you’re traveling along that path.
But… you have to choose that path.
Happiness is not easy. It is work. It doesn’t have to be hard work, but there will be times where you will have to work hard to remain happy. Nothing in life is really worth it unless you have had to work hard for it, and happiness is worth it.
I’m guilty of things like self doubt and self deprecation. I’m guilty of having very little self confidence. I’m guilty of thinking, at times, that true happiness is something that I can never attain. Why? Because those are things that are so very easy to believe. It’s easy to believe that I’m not capable of doing something. It’s easy to believe that I’m not worth someone else’s time. It’s easy to believe that being sad is what’s right for me.
I don’t want to do things the easy way anymore. I want to be happy. I am happy. Hell, I’ve been downright good the past couple of weeks. Yes, I have my worries and concerns. Who doesn’t? It’s making the choice to be happy that’s started this good feeling, and if I keep it up, and I have every intention of doing so, then I will continue to be happy. Isn’t that a goal that we should all work towards?
It won’t be easy. There will be bumps along the way. There will be times that we will revert back to the easy path because life just has a way of brow beating us. However, when that happens, we have to man up and choose to be happy once again.
Would this work for everyone? No. There are some situations in which the choice of happiness is taken away. That doesn’t mean that it’s impossible, only that it may take a little while longer to find it. Depression is an illness, and we, for the most part, don’t know how to effectively treat it.
One thought that I’ve had recently that I really wanted to put out there is this: One cannot experience happiness or sadness without having experienced sadness or happiness.
That links in directly with my thoughts on balance. You cannot have darkness without the light and vice versa. Good cannot exist without evil if you will.
That’s a different conversation altogether, however, and one day I might write about that as well.