So, I’m sitting here on the couch observing National Beer Day (shut up, it’s a thing) after finishing watching Valerian with my son (Hey, it’s also a pretty decent movie) and browsing through Facebook and it occurs to me what one of the problems with our world really is. Too many people seem to want to complain publicly about something. Hear me out…
Okay, so bear with me. I’ve had a couple of beers and maybe, just maybe, that makes me more verbose that usual.
Well, no maybe about it. It fucking does. And yes, I just said that, because I was in a good mood (a great one, really) until I looked at Facebook. I’m seriously going to stop following people and things that are so damn negative all the time. Also, I won’t apologize if this rubs anyone the wrong way. If you take offense at any of this, then you’re going to need to seriously open your closed mind up a little more. Let some happiness in!
Images like this pop up way too often on my feed. It gets rather old after awhile. Hell, it doesn’t even take that long for me to get annoyed with stuff like this. The worst part is that it’s not even only about work. The posts like this one range from work to family and friends. Social Media has gotten to be a real downer most of the time.
Complaining about things only does one thing: It increases your own stress levels not only about what you’re complaining about, but also every other little thing that your stressing over becomes magnified. Stop and think about it before you really get into. Yes, it’s just one little image. Yes, it may be how you feel about whatever situation that you’re dealing with. But seriously? What GOOD does it do? Nothing. Nada. Zip. Zilch. You get the picture. It doesn’t ever really help anything. Sure, you may find it amusing at the moment, but it’s still something that you’re stressing about.
Okay, so you don’t like your job. It stresses you out. It causes you pain. It does these things and more. What can you learn from that? Perhaps you need to seriously think about finding a new job. Perhaps you need to review how you are thinking about your current job and your co-workers. This is a situation that you can remedy. You just have to set your mind to it. Don’t tell me that there aren’t any other jobs out there that you can switch to. That is absolute bullshit and you know it. You just don’t WANT to change to something else because you don’t want to do it. There is work out there. You just have to go and find it.
Hey, you’ve got problems of some sort. Who doesn’t? Guess what? The world doesn’t really need to know about it. You want your best friend to know what’s going on? That’s what the phone is for. Call up your best friend and bitch and moan to them.
That being said… there is, at times, a reason to complain publicly about something. Just keep your personal life exactly where it belongs: within your own person.
Several years ago I decided that I needed to inject some humor and happiness into Facebook posts, so I started to share things that I found amusing as well as cute animals. These were things that made me smile. These were things that I hoped would make others smile. I still share the same types of things now, but I’ve also added inspirational messages. These messages are the types of messages that I’ve read more and more of. They are messages that mean something to me. They are messages that I sincerely hope that some of you will read and see that it all makes sense when you really think about it.
I started seeing every day as a great day, and every day is. Do you know how I start my day thinking that? I woke up. I got out of bed. I have my son, and I have a job that helps me take care of him. I have friends and family that I care about and that care about me. I have those that I love.
Be happy. Be joyful. Be thankful. Don’t be angry and sad because of your situation. Change your mind and your situation will change with you.
“The best way of removing negativity is to laugh and be joyous.” David Icke
I could be in a completely different situation myself if I had let life get me down. I spent a couple of months being basically depressed, and it was a hole that I didn’t really want to be in, but there I was. I pulled myself out of it by banishing as much of my negativity as I could. Is there still some remaining? Sure, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing, because it gives me something that I know that I need to improve upon. I’m not going to air all of that out for the world to see however. It’s my own personal issues and that’s where they’ll stay.
And now I’m going to take my slightly tipsy self back to my couch (or bed… I’m tired!) and think of something (or someone) that makes me happy. Then, and only then, will I be able to sleep well. AND SLEEP WELL I WILL! 🙂