Oh, Halloween. You are an amazing time of year. Well, Autumn is anyway. Halloween is just one of those fun aspects of it. Along with these amazing colors (once the leaves bloody start changing) and cooler temperatures you get people in a better mood. For the most part. Some of y’all are just grumpy and won’t cheer up for anything. Yes, yes, I know. I happen to be one of those people from time to time, but that’s neither here nor there.
So, beautiful colors in nature, cooler temperatures (which equates to me being oh so very much more comfortable), happier people (thanks for being able to joke around; do that all year long), decorations, and kids being kids. What more can you ask for?
I’m sitting here at my desk and messing with my son. I can turn my XBox on with my app. Wait, what? How is that messing with your son? Easy. I’m on the opposite end of the house, and he’s eating breakfast in view of the living room where the XBox is. So, I turn it on with my phone and then hear the gasp coming from him.
“Did you just turn the XBox on?”
“No, how could I do that? I’m in here.” Here being my den.
“It just turned on by itself!”
Yes. Yes, it did. Or did it? “Maybe we have a ghost in the house?”
I probably wouldn’t do this any other time of year. If only I could figure out a way to do this from work while he’s at home after school. Now THAT would be very amusing to see and hear his reaction! No, I’m not horrible. I’m just enjoying this time of year.
Which brings me to a different point. Hey retailers! Please stop putting Christmas crap out so early! Let us get through at least Halloween before you start foisting all of that holiday cheer on us! It’s rather annoying, and it’s also not even THAT season, yet! I get it. I really do. The Christmas shopping seasons drives a huge amount of income for retail businesses everywhere, and they want to take advantage of that for as long as they can. Some businesses only make a yearly profit because of the shopping season. That’s crazy to think about, but I imagine that it’s the truth. Do I agree with a business taking advantage of a religious holiday to turn a profit? Honestly? It’s not my concern. Christmas has long been an economic holiday instead of a religious one.
We long ago forgot the “reason for the season.” Now, here’s where I go a different direction from what some of Y’all might be thinking about. I’m not going to talk about Christianity (I still hold that Christmas is much more of a pagan holiday due to certain things, but that’s a topic for another post altogether). I’m going to talk about what we really should focus on during that particular time of year. It all starts with Thanksgiving. In fact, it starts there and ends there as well.
Our lives have caused us to cram certain things into certain times of the year. Why is that? Are we just so busy that we can’t make time for our family and friends? Do we only spend our time working (hush, don’t judge me!) to be able to make ends meet and then use that as an excuse for why we haven’t visited someone before a holiday? I am completely guilty of that. I blame the responsibility that I feel for my work, my home, my dog, and my son. I have done all that to make sure that there is a roof over our heads, clothes on our bodies, and food in our bodies. Okay, so Jake doesn’t wear any clothes, but who’s worrying about that? He’s warm and fed and happy. What more could a dog ask for?
I spend so much of my time worrying about bills. I spend a lot of time worrying about how my son is doing in school. My brain wants to worry about whether my business is going to turn a little extra profit this month or not. My thoughts turn to my debt issues and make me wonder how I’m going to get that taken care of (come on winning lottery numbers! Yeah, right…). What do I not think of? When I’m going to make it out to see my parents again. I hate that. I truly do, but I always feel as if there is one more little thing that I have to take care of. Then I’ll drive out to see them. They’re only fifteen minutes away, and yet I still don’t make it out there often enough to talk to them. That’s horrible of me. They might say that they understand; that they know that I’m busy, but that doesn’t make it right. Yes, I’m a full-time business owner. Yes, I’m a single dad. Yes, I’m a homeowner. Does any of that really matter?
I will see my parents more over the next few months than I’ve seen them all year. Maybe that’s an exaggeration, but it feels true. Why? Holidays. It’s absolutely crazy, but that’s how we do this in our society. We’ve not only forgotten that the Christmas season is more about just showering people with gifts. We’ve forgotten that the simple fact that the Christmas season is about showing our loved ones that we love them and care about them. Except that we really should be doing that all year long. We make excuses for why we don’t do that.
“I’ve been too busy to call.”
“I haven’t been able to go and visit because I’ve worked too much.”
“My son has had trouble with Science, so I’ve tried to help him out with it.”
They are only excuses, and we can all do so much better than that.
Also, wow. I’m not entirely sure that I’ve even talked about the topic that I really wanted to touch on, but we’ll go with this. Or did I? Maybe I did. I’m trying to wrap this up so that I can get going to work. Imagine that.
Anyway, take the time to go and visit your parents. If you can’t seem to do that, then pick up the damn phone (that’s really a note to me) and call them. Ask them how they’re doing. Don’t ask for a favor. Tell them that you love them. Tell them what’s going on in your life. Invite them over for dinner sometime or take them somewhere nice.
If you don’t have that luxury, then do something nice for someone random. See that guy sitting on the sidewalk who has definitely seen better days? Buy him a meal. Tell him something nice as you hand it to him. Be kind. Don’t be an ass. Smile at someone walking down the street, especially if they’re not smiling at all. Shake someone’s hand and wish them a wonderful day. Send that thank you card that you probably forgot to send. WRITE A LETTER to someone. Do you remember what it felt like to receive an actual hand-written letter from someone? It’s an amazing feeling. Send a care package to soldiers stationed overseas. Donate blood! Donate your time.
We’re only in this world for a short while. Make the absolute best of it.