Think about that for just a moment. Take a deep breath and really think about it. We are so engrossed with calling people out who do things that we perceive to be bad. We attempt to bring them down in whatever way that we can. What purpose does this serve?When you get right down to it doing that only serves to perpetuate the behavior. Look, I know full well that some people will never change how they act. It is part of their being. It is part of who they are. But, do you really want to stoop to their level?
I won’t pretend to know exactly how to react to people who do things that negatively impact others. It certainly comes down to a case by case basis. Your reaction, however, reflects upon you and not just in the eyes of others. You may feel good for a moment about putting down that person who you feel wronged you, but what about your own view of yourself afterward?
Ask yourself this question. Am I any different from that person if I treat them how they’ve treated me?
Toxicity breeds toxicity. Hate breeds hate. Darkness breeds darkness. I can turn that around, however, and use different words. Love breeds love. Kindness breeds kindness.
There is only really one line in the Bible that has ever stuck with me after multiple readings:
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Doesn’t that make sense to you? We don’t want others to treat us negatively and yet that’s how we respond. I understand that the thinking is that ”they started it.” Are we back in elementary school?
By all means, defend yourself. You have that right and you should exercise it. Perhaps refrain from going any farther than that. Look, it’s not that I don’t believe in justice. It’s just that sometimes I feel as if we take things too far. It’s easy to do, and it’s even easier to get carried away with it. There has to be a line drawn somewhere that you wouldn’t cross.
Some things should definitely be reported. There is no doubt about that. Following up on that with more piled on isn’t absolutely necessary in all cases.
So, take a deep breath and think for a moment before you respond in kind. Sometimes it’s just not worth it to lessen yourself by stooping to their level.